In Memorium-Judy Popkin


The poem below is from The Writer’s Almanac for today: 7/31/08. So apt … I post it in memory of Judy Popkin who was born 8/19/53 and died after a nine year battle with breast cancer on 7/31/99.

We Remember!

Eating Together

by Kim Addonizio

I know my friend is going,
though she still sits there
across from me in the restaurant,
and leans over the table to dip
her bread in the oil on my plate; I know
how thick her hair used to be,
and what it takes for her to discard
her man’s cap partway through our meal,
to look straight at the young waiter
and smile when he asks
how we are liking it. She eats
as though starvingβ€”chicken, dolmata,
the buttery flakes of filoβ€”
and what’s killing her
eats, too. I watch her lift
a glistening black olive and peel
the meat from the pit, watch
her fine long fingers, and her face,
puffy from medication. She lowers
her eyes to the food, pretending
not to know what I know. She’s going.
And we go on eating.

“Eating Together” by Kim Addonizio from What Is This Thing Called Love. Β© W. W. Norton and Company, 2005. Reprinted with permission. (buy now)

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4 Responses to In Memorium-Judy Popkin

  1. JordanCornblog says:

    Hey – amazing to hear from you. Sorry to hear about your friend. We are all well. Rachel is due back later this month from a semester in Tanzania. BJ is standing here and says … “Howdy – what’s your e-mail?” You can connect with her on Twitter – do you Tweet? She’s beeg23 on Twitter! πŸ˜‰

    PS I am JordanCornblog on Twitter …


  2. Nat Johnson says:

    Hey Jordy,

    Thought of Judy today, having lost a dear, dear friend to breast cancer three months ago. And in Googling found you — or your alter ego?

    Hope you, Dewd, Eades, BJ, Chris, (and Rachel, of whom I’ve heard) are doing well.

    Thinking of you,


  3. JordanCornblog says:

    Yes – it felt totally perfect that there was a femme m’amie concert on this day. The passage of time is hard to fathom, isn’t it?

    The concert was great, too. The femmes were in great form … and it’s fun to seem them so clearly enjoying one another and their music!

    See you soon, I hope … and then there’s FFootball!


  4. Paula Rockwell says:

    Thank you Jordy for the remembrance and the poem. Hardly seems possible that all these years have past since Judy graced us with her being on earth.
    Hope all is well on the Canterbury Hillside. Seems appropo that the Femmes are singing tonite.


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